Sunday, June 7, 2009

Dads, Not Babysitters!

After much anticipation, my official Dad-Blogs shirt finally arrived. And conveniently it arrived just in time for the very first extended Daddy-Daughter Day. Today, Mommy went to get a 90 minute massage from her favorite massage place (Hillsborough Massage Therapy) to redeem part of her Mother's Day gift, which meant that Daddy and Kaylani (and Padrino Tim) were alone with Kaylani for a whole 4 hours. Sure that doesn't sound a lot, but it was by far the longest Mommy has been away. But I wasn't babysitting today, I was Daddy-ing (Fathering? Papi-ing? I dunno, but it wasn't babysitting).

To many of you, babysitting may sound like the right term for what I did today, but it's not. Babysitting is what someone does when they just watch Kaylani. But as Kaylani's Dad, it's about more than just watching Kaylani. I'm her Dad, which means that I'm going to love her, take care of her, teach her, guide her, and be there for her whenever and wherever she needs me. Some babysitters do that, but still not the way Dad does.

I could get into a whole rant about the way society views Dads as babysitters, but there are a host of posts already on the topic over at Dad-Blogs. So instead, let's recap just how Daddy and Kaylani's day went today. It started at 5:30am when Kaylani decided she wasn't going to wait until noon for Mommy to leave and for Daddy-Daughter Day to start. But since she's still not a pro at the sippy cup (and because Mommy and Daddy had grand visions of her nursing then going back to sleep until 7am), Mommy nursed her and Daddy-Daughter Day started at 6:30am. From then until 8am, we played with blocks, blankets, other blocks, animals, curtains, the exersaucer, the jumper, and finally a doll before it was time for cereal. After that, it was Mommy's turn to nurse her before Kaylani's first nap.

The real Daddy-Daughter time (without a safety net) came at noon, and was comprised of some more blocks, some more jumping, lunch ( beans), some flying (courtesy of Padrino Tim), and then a nap in the car as Daddy the realtor showed Padrino Tim the neighborhoods. And to round out the time, Kaylani got to see Auntie Meredith and Katie before a trip to Panera for lunch. Soon enough it was time to say bye bye to Padrino Tim and Auntie Meredith, and hi to a new, refreshed, relaxed Mommy. After a trip to the park and some time in the swings, we were back home for a nice dinner of carrots and prune juice (poor baby needs to POOP!)

Now Kaylani is doing the one thing that Daddy can't help with...nursing. As hard as I tried today to do everything just like Mommy, I couldn't bring myself to get her to latch on (which was probably for the best since we avoided something like this happening). So Daddy-Daughter Day is over for now. Soon enough she'll be a pro at this whole sippy cup thing which means Daddy-Daughter Day could be extended even longer. I hope it's soon because I had a blast. Plus, I've got another Dad-Blogs T-shirt to wear, and these times are perfect to show them off.

Much overdue, but check out pictures from the last many days. They include pictures from today obviously, as well as her first Veggie Puff, real apples, and everything else that's happened. And don't forget to click over to Dad-Blogs to read my latest Sports IllustraDad post on the rules of golfing with a baby! Oh, and lastly, if you want your very own Dad-Blogs "Dads, not Babysitters" T-shirt, buy one now from The Dad-Blogs store! They make great Father's Day gifts! Just saying.


Mayte said...

cool shrit :)!

Mayte said...

cool shirt :)!

Daddy Files said...

Holy crap. This is the first time you've flown solo? My wife couldn't wait to test my dad skills by taking off when he was just weeks old to go get her nails done.

It's terrifying at first but I'm glad she did it. Big confidence builder.

Glad to see everything went well and I think I'm going to pick me up one of those shirts too.

surprised mom said...

My husband absolutely HATED it when people asked him if he was "babysitting." Daddy-daughter time is very important and it's called parenting, not babysitting. I'm sure you and Kaylani will enjoy much more Daddy-Daughter time and each of you will cherish and anticipate your special time. And by the way, you will never do a thing exactly like Mommy. You will do it exactly like Daddy. And that is just fine. BTW, nice T-shirt!

JonnyTam13 said...

@DaddyFiles: This was the first time she's left for 4 hours. Previous times were an hour for grocery shopping, an hour to get her nails done, and other random smaller trips.

@surprised: PARENTING! That's the word I was looking for. Guess that works better than Daddying and Papi-ing.

JonnyTam13 said...

And to all: thanks for the comment on the shirt. Now go buy one too :)

Joeprah said...

We actually set it up so the shirt would come at the optimum time--all part of the service. Dads, not babysitters is a classic shirt and should increase your parenting powers by about 50%.

JonnyTam13 said...

I feel more parenty already..maybe even 50% more!